Two Cents Tuesday Challenge: Expectations.

I look in the mirror. I hardly recognize the me that stares back. I see my body and can feel society holding the syringe and waiting to inject me with the shame that shall run its course through my veins. The wear of motherhood makes me cringe as I face the stretch marks, the loose skin, and the extra pounds. The annihilation of what my body was prior to my children suffocates me, numbs me. I exhale completely. Although my values could easily be lost in the societal expectations of me and my fellow mommies, I find the words, words of war.

My mommy friends, hear this, believe this, know the truths of motherhood. The female body is a vessel for the miracle of life. Nothing is more beautiful. The self-hatred toward something of such awe-inspiring ability is truly sad. Our stretch marks are our battle scars which mark our endurance, our strength, our unconditional love. Why be ashamed? Why loathe the body that made it possible for you to know the greatness of motherhood? Cherish this body. Love this body. Be grateful that your body with all of its imperfections allowed for you to be blessed with the perfect, precious baby.

Every day is a battle in this war. Expectations ignite bombs leaving us to feel like we most be apologetic for how we look. The sickness of self-loathing for a true mother’s body spreads through magazines, through music videos, through most of social media.  The real shame is in those who would choose to promote the fallacy, as if a mother’s body should look the same as before she birthed her children. Society and social media shall not dictate unhealthy, unreasonable, and unrealistic expectations for me. I take another look in the mirror. I recognize the spirit of motherhood, abundant and beautiful.

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  3 comments for “Two Cents Tuesday Challenge: Expectations.

  1. May 22, 2014 at 6:35 am

    More women need to voice a protest about societal expectations towards women of all ages. It is practically impossible to be at any stage in life without feeling the pressure – not fair and not right: gender equality, I don’t think so… Thank you so much for your wonderful first entry!

    • Suzanne
      May 22, 2014 at 11:03 am

      Thank you for giving me a topic I could use to inspire me to write. I love the challenge of figuring out how to make a general topic fit into my blog. I agree that there are societal pressures at every stage of life for women. I fear the burden my daughter will face in growing up and want to role model self-acceptance as much as possible.

      • May 23, 2014 at 8:10 am

        It’s a long road even when you give them all the tools they need…

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