2014 New Year Resolutions
Every year for the past 10+ years, I have set 10 resolutions to strive towards. Some of these resolutions I meet, some, I half meet, and some, I don’t even come close to meeting. However, I am always in tune with what I’m working towards, and I re-visit these throughout the year to see if I’m on track. My tips for creating resolutions, whether you have one or ten, is as follows:
- Find a way to hold yourself accountable by sharing your resolutions. (I have done this in the past by forcing my childhood friend Naomi to make resolutions with me. And by force, I mean I sternly tell her, “get them ready!”, she doesn’t, and I just tell her mine.) I also have posted them on Facebook for the past four years in the “notes” section. This is helpful because I can go back and see how much my value system has changed.
- Make your resolutions “doable”. Yes, it would be nice to lose 50+ pounds, make $100,000 more, quit eating all processed foods, learn a new language, live off the grid, and become a hipster. But how possible is it to make complete life changes? Instead, look at what you want to change, and think about what is realistic and achievable. You’ve got to have both the motivation to change and confidence in your ability to change to make your resolutions transpire.
- Make your resolutions specific. Simply saying, “I resolve to be happier,” isn’t going to help you. That’s just vague. What can you do that would make you feel happier? What needs to change? Maybe you need less ______ in your life, or maybe you need more cowbell (this is a Will Ferrell joke). Figuring out the specifics sets you up for the next step. This is the part where you ask, “Who? What? Where? Why? When? How?”.
- Your resolutions should be measurable. If increased happiness is what you crave, and you see a need to increase self-care time for mommy, then a good, measurable resolution might be to get a babysitter once a month for a date night or some alone time (just so happens to be one of my 10 resolutions). Measurable.
- Finally, remember to be kind and compassionate towards yourself when you’re not meeting your resolutions. It’s never too late to re-start, and you have a full year. And if you’re like me, sometimes a year is not enough time. And that’s okay.
Any now to increase my accountability…
In 2014, I resolve to…
- Take a yoga class. I think I’m the only 30-something female who has never taken a yoga class. (Comcast ONDemand does not count.)
- Create a will with my husband. (This is leftovers from 2013, and it is very important to me.)
- Do a 5k that has an obstacle course (the running part is boring, but I would love to crawl through mud and climb walls).
- Keep up my blog on a regular basis (goal of 2-3 posts/week).
- Try a new DIY craft or activity every month. (Pinterest is great for this.)
- Budget to save up for a new couch (our current couch is a death trap for toddlers.)
- Save money on food by making meals at home on weeknights (no more easy fast food pick-ups on my way home from work).
- Practice meditation before bedtime 2/week.
- Take the kids to experience something new monthly.
- Plan a monthly date with the Hubby.